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Acceptance

September 12, 2014 by melragent 4 Comments

Tomorrow is Sam’s first ever birthday party… with friends… from his school. I was hesitant to throw him a party, unsure if other kids would come. I was nervous that if I invited his class, they would all find excuses not to attend the party. Sam’s therapist pushed me. She told me Sam was ready for a party. She told me Sam has friends.

So, I sucked up my fear and sent out the evite. Then I sat back and waited.

I clicked on the evite daily, just to see if anyone had RSVP’d. After a few days, responses starting coming in.

“No – we have other plans that day”
“No – we are out of town”
“Maybe – we will see if we can swing by”

One after the other the No’s came in. Then a Yes. But that was quickly changed to a no. Of the 18 kids from pre-school invited, only 3 said yes. And two will only be able to be there for an hour at most.

I know that Sam will not know the difference. He will just be happy that his buddy Emma is there. But I know. And it makes me sad.

Are people saying no because of Sam’s autism or are they saying no because they are all really that busy?

I don’t know the answer, the only thing I do know is I hope I get all my tears out tonight so I can act like everything is OK tomorrow for Sam at his birthday party that nobody is coming to.

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Filed Under: Autism, Parenting, Three years to Four Years Tagged With: Autism, Birthday, Tears

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  1. Jen Pantoja says

    September 12, 2014 at 8:27 pm

    Melissa- I am sending hugs and a bottle of wine. This has me in tears. I hate to invite myself but Naya and I would be honored to attend if u will have us. I just have to warn u that she hugs everyone a hundred times.

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    • melragent says

      September 12, 2014 at 10:04 pm

      You and Naya would be welcome… And the offer is so appreciated. The party is from 10-1 at Dracena park in Piedmont.

      Reply
  2. Jen Pantoja says

    September 12, 2014 at 11:46 pm

    See u tomorrow šŸ™‚

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  3. Sharon says

    September 15, 2014 at 7:27 am

    Hi, Melissa,
    This is your cousin by marriage, Sharon Salinger. Three children guests is the right number for a 3-year-old (1 guest per year of age), and an hour is probably long enough for a 3-year-old’s party. This info may not soothe your anxiety’s about the future, but if we are staying in the present moment, the outcome may be perfect. With love and admiration, Sharon

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